This article was originally published in Girls Souls magazine. It is an interview of the founder of nympho life Polina Kirichuk by the editor-in-chief of Girls Souls magazine Alena Godunova.
I have a friend Polina. Polina and I met at university, and now Polina has a cool project, nympho life. And I really want to tell you about it. What is the philosophy behind the project, how it was born, what are its goals for the future, as well as how to deal with shame and insecurities about sex — in a new article.
Tell us a little about your project. What is nympho life?
nympho life is a project that celebrates sexual freedom, self-expression and sensuality. You can't let society tell you how to express your sexuality and libido. For me, being a nympho does not at all mean being promiscuous which is often associated with this term. For me, it means being in harmony with your libido no matter how much sex you want, with or without feelings, with boys or girls, with big or small number of partners, with one partner only, or with yourself (self-pleasure is incredibly important, regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not, and even if you have not yet experienced intimate life). nympho life is, first of all, a philosophy that I created for myself and I want to share with the world, as it makes me happy and helps the people around me and my community. This is the philosophy I bring to the world through my Instagram account @nympho.life, where I curate erotic content — photography, art and humor. Over time, my philosophy also evolved into a brand under the same name — nympholife.net.
Audience of nympho life — who are these people?
My community are women and men who, like me, admire the aesthetics of the female body, sensuality, and sometimes provocative, but so intoxicating manifestations of sexuality. Initially it all started, of course, with my friends. I always talk very openly about my beliefs and views with my friends, so they were the first to support my project. Since I repost content from other profiles a lot, I get a lot of reposts back and thus the audience of the profiles that I highlight on my page finds me. I was also followed by the legend of erotic photography Ellen Von Unwerth who photographed such icons as Monica Bellucci, Naomi Campbell, Rihanna, Lady Gaga, Kate Moss and many others. I adore her work and was incredibly happy when I saw her among your followers.
How did your project come about and why did you decide to do this?
I have always been attracted to eroticism and sensuality, long before I had my first sexual encounter. It just always seemed to me that it is magic — that our bodies were created by nature to receive pleasure, and that intimacy and the expression of feelings for another person using your own body is a form of creativity. It simply fascinated me. With the advent of Instagram, everyone has the opportunity to find and share visual content, so I created the nympho life page to share content that inspires me. It became my main platform for self-expression. As for the nympho life brand, I have always loved t-shirts and hoodies with provocative quotes and wanted to create my own line of clothing that would reflect the spirit of nympho life — clothes with prints that make strangers turn their heads and blush after reading the not-so-innocent inscription on a t-shirt.
What are your future goals for nympho life? How big do you think it will grow?
My dream is to grow nympho life into an educational platform and a place for open discussions about sexuality. I really want all people to understand their sexuality and realize that their body is created for pleasure. We talk very little about sex and intimacy. Sex education, which is taught in schools, focuses mainly on how to avoid getting pregnant and not contracting a sexually transmitted disease... This is not enough. We need to talk about pleasure from sex, how to please women and men, what types of orgasm exist and that everyone experiences it differently, about monogamy and polygamy, about the fact that boys sometimes like boys, girls like girls, and sometimes it doesn’t matter at all what the gender is, in order for feelings to develop, about fetishes, about masturbation, about consent, about the fact that porn does not reflect reality and not everyone is ready for what Brazzers has standardized and, of course, about the fact that communication is the MOST IMPORTANT. It is important to talk about your desires and vice versa, about what you don’t like, as well as about your intentions. I really want to normalize open dialogue on all of these topics and hope to use nympho life as a platform for such discussions in the future.
Since our readers are young girls and many girls have a lot of insecurities, self-awareness and concerns about intimacy and everything connected to it, can you tell us about your first sexual experience? Have you ever experienced insecurities and how did you deal with them? What were you afraid of in this regard at first? And also, can you give some advice to our readers on how to stop being ashamed of yourself and stop being afraid to talk about it?
If we are talking about the first time having sex, of course there was awkwardness. I think that it is often caused by a person's lack of self-confidence and dissatisfaction with their body, as well as fear of the unknown. I was embarrassed about my body and constantly thought about how I looked in the eyes of another person. It helped me that I waited for the person for whom I had feelings, it was mutual and I was sure that I wanted to lose my virginity with him and never regretted it, even though the relationship did not last long. I’m not saying that this is the only “right” way to do it — I have a huge number of friends who didn’t put any sacred meaning into this and just wanted to start living their sexual life as soon as possible, so they didn’t particularly bother with choosing their first partner... and they are as happy as I am! The most important thing is to listen to yourself and understand what you are comfortable with.
Returning to the topic of issues related to self-esteem, I had a lot of them. I didn’t like myself, but I knew that this was a problem and I needed to solve it somehow. What helped me was that every day, for several years, standing in front of the mirror, I told myself that I was beautiful, that I loved myself, that I was successful and happy, and other positive affirmations. Initially, I didn’t believe in it myself. But, over time, repeating this practice every day in the morning and before falling asleep, I not only started to believe in it, I began to embody it. And now I don’t need to convince myself that I’m beautiful and my body is beautiful — I know it. Of course, I still don’t like everything about myself, but with age comes the realization that your appearance and your body are given to you for life — and life is too short to spend it whining about your shortcomings, when you can focus on what's beautiful about you. Sports also helped me a lot to raise my self-esteem. Because sport directly reflects the work you do on yourself and the effort you put into yourself — you look better and feel strong and healthy in your body, which greatly helps to raise your self-esteem.
As for the ability to talk about sexual topics, I was never shy about this, because, as I already said, I was always incredibly interested in this topic and I always wanted to learn about it as much as possible and hear about other people’s views on any aspect of sexuality and about their personal experiences, as well as share my own personal experiences. For many people this topic is not comfortable, and I respect that. I believe that the point is not for everyone to be able to share their sexual experiences and fantasies at some house party while playing a drinking game, but to be able to admit to yourself what you really want and like and talk about your wishes with your partner. This is difficult, sometimes it is also difficult for me to talk about what I like or don’t like with my partner, despite my openness with friends. But in the end, communicating your desires is the most important thing, because everyone should be happy and comfortable. So my advice is, despite the fear, practice communicating your desires because, eventually, this will make you truly happy. And if your partner is not responsive to them, then this is not your person ;)
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